Friends with Benefits

What a weekend. I totally love those weekends that I don’t have any major plans. My nephew had a basketball game and then I hung out with them (the ex-laws) the rest of they day, it was awesome. We hung out, hot tubbed and drank some brews, what a way to spend a Saturday. My nephews are so funny, they asked if I was going on any trips soon so I could bring them back something. Gee, am I spoiling them? I hope so.

I was driving over to their house and passed one of my ex-flings. Let’s see, how to describe him…he was the I’ll-call-you-tomorrow- and-then-not-call- for-a-week guy. We went out two years ago for a while, we hooked up at a funeral (which is probably wrong in the first place, but the guy would’ve approved) and he told his friend the next day that I was a ROCK STAR in the sack. (Yes, he said ROCKSTAR). His friend happened to be the boyfriend of my sister-in-law’s sister – needless to say, that news spread like wildfire in the family. I still have fond thoughts whenever I hear Nickelback’s RockStar song. We rekindled last year for a while too, but it didn’t work out that time around either. Imagine that, if it didn’t work out the first time, why would it the next time around? I texted him to see if he knew it was me, so then we did some texting. He was like ‘u seeing anyone’, I was like, ‘naw, still single’, and so on, then he was like ‘call me sometime’.

Anyhoo, we (sis-in-law & nephews) went to another game and I saw this guy that totally hit on me one night – and it turns out that he just knocked up his ex-wife, AND recently had a kid with another chick, hence the reason for the EX. He’s such a slut! But why would you divorce someone for getting his girlfriend pregnant, then hook up with the guy again? Who’s stupider?

After the second game, we all went back to the house, had a few beers, then I decided to head home. So do I do the smart thing and go straight home? No, why would I do that? I text Mr. Unreliable to see if he wants to have a beer. He was already out so told me to stop by. We have a couple beers, then his buddies leave so we’re talking. We get on the topic of sex and how we had great sex (really great, I mean exceptional). So you could guess what we were both thinking – maybe we should hook up for old time’s sake, just for a little ‘no strings’ action. We had this discussion earlier this summer too, I’d had one too many beers and saw him out – I told him I was thinking about calling him for a hook up since I was in a sex drought – sometimes I really shouldn’t say what I’m thinking.

We decide that even if we were going to hook up, last night was not the night since it’s a 40 minute drive to my place. There’s always tomorrow, right? We did exchange some dirty texting when I got home though.

All that sex talk got me thinking. No strings, friends with benefits, f&*K buddy – they’re all the same. Is there such a thing? I know people do this, but you always wonder, does one person get emotionally involved? Do women (some women) just go along with this thinking that if she is so cool and liberal about sex, maybe she can win the guy over? Or how about the ones that go psycho stalker?

But then, what’s worse? Meeting some guy in a bar and having a one night stand or hooking up with a friend who you have hot sexual chemistry with and who gets you? Either way, you’re not getting a relationship out of the deal. They’re both easy tools for immediate self gratification, yet leave a sense of emptiness afterwards. I suppose neither is really the best option if you’re looking for something more than just a quickie. Or maybe some people really can have straight out unemotional casual sex, I don’t know, it seems like there has to be more to it than that. I think I’ll stick with power tools, no emotional investment and you never have to worry that they’ll call you the next day. Then again, the Rabbit won’t hold your hand or watch the Seahawks game with you.